Well. We all know that it's a problem when something happens to not at all be about men – or even for men really.
As lesbians who never reference their oppression or even their sexuality, Tegan and Sara don't have men to lash out at, put up with or gripe about. This may be why their uncommonly detailed love songs are so short on drama - a riddle worth pondering, because their keyboard-heavy, New Wave-ish music is also uncommonly catchy. When Sara changes up a chorus with a melodically climactic "But I promise this/I won't go my whole life/Telling you I don't need," or Tegan caps a verse with a hook that goes, "All I need to hear is that you're not mine," your musical impulse is to empathize, if not identify. But the objects of their romantic ambivalence remain distant - the focus is the singer's feelings, examined rather than indulged. Tune seekers will admire many of these songs - "The Con," "Nineteen," "Back in Your Head," "Like O, Like H." But that doesn't mean they'll fully connect with them.
Source: Rolling Stone
2007-07-20
Viagra, my love
"[Viagra] doesn’t make men into good lovers. For many women, it has merely highlighted the incompetence of their lovers. More crucially, it has laid bare a female secret that many men never knew. Penetrative sex does not necessarily give women the best orgasms – and, depending on which study you read, anything from a third to 52% of women never have orgasms in this way."
How is it possible that it is 2007, and people have presumably had sex since like forever – don't ask me why – and they are only now starting to [officially] realise what women like when it comes to sex. Not to mention that they do, and that it isn't actually depending on a penis. (How many friends haven't asked me if I – being a lesbian – don't feel like there is something missing? "No, my friend", I tell them, "you just haven't realised yet that there is just something in the way.")
"We are realising there are important differences in sexual arousal and responsiveness between men and women, and considerable variation between individual women – more than there is in men – in their sexual responsiveness."
"The sexual-dysfunction industry [says that] there must be something wrong with the clitorises of these women. A recent paper in the US Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology described an earnest effort to investigate “pudendal nerve integrity” after discovering 48.2% of its sample had “desire disorder, arousal, orgasmic or pain disorders”. Not great if you are selling a drug that gives men urgent erections."
Only yesterday I was listening to the news on the radio, and there was a new report that many young women experience pain when having sex (I'm assuming they're talking about penetration here, but I obviously couldn't ask them – them being on the radio and all). Now, they think it might be their birth control pills 'causing it. Considering how many problems related to sex are connected to those pills – loss of sexual appetite (gotta love that phrase), pain, not being able to orgasm, hey the list goes on – you'd really think they'd come up with something better, no? Apparently not – it is still the birth control recommended to young women. But pain? Hello. This girl was talking about how it hurt every time for years and years – and no one asked her if she ever considered not having penetrative sex. (Sweetie, you know, he doesn't have to put it there if you don't like it.)
"Katherine Angel, a Cambridge philosopher researching cultural attitudes to sexual problems, thinks [most women are uninterested in penetrative sex], whatever their age. “Women are being told they must have a male attitude to sex. It is becoming procedural and technical, and if you are not having lots of penetrative sex and reaching a climax, you are dysfunctional. The majority of women fail to reach orgasm during penetrative sex, which must mean the majority of women have a disease. The drive to narrow the definition of what sex is about is very worrying.”"
Source: Link
(All quotes are from this article, but I didn't quote even a third of it, read on though, it's interesting.)
How is it possible that it is 2007, and people have presumably had sex since like forever – don't ask me why – and they are only now starting to [officially] realise what women like when it comes to sex. Not to mention that they do, and that it isn't actually depending on a penis. (How many friends haven't asked me if I – being a lesbian – don't feel like there is something missing? "No, my friend", I tell them, "you just haven't realised yet that there is just something in the way.")
"We are realising there are important differences in sexual arousal and responsiveness between men and women, and considerable variation between individual women – more than there is in men – in their sexual responsiveness."
"The sexual-dysfunction industry [says that] there must be something wrong with the clitorises of these women. A recent paper in the US Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology described an earnest effort to investigate “pudendal nerve integrity” after discovering 48.2% of its sample had “desire disorder, arousal, orgasmic or pain disorders”. Not great if you are selling a drug that gives men urgent erections."
Only yesterday I was listening to the news on the radio, and there was a new report that many young women experience pain when having sex (I'm assuming they're talking about penetration here, but I obviously couldn't ask them – them being on the radio and all). Now, they think it might be their birth control pills 'causing it. Considering how many problems related to sex are connected to those pills – loss of sexual appetite (gotta love that phrase), pain, not being able to orgasm, hey the list goes on – you'd really think they'd come up with something better, no? Apparently not – it is still the birth control recommended to young women. But pain? Hello. This girl was talking about how it hurt every time for years and years – and no one asked her if she ever considered not having penetrative sex. (Sweetie, you know, he doesn't have to put it there if you don't like it.)
"Katherine Angel, a Cambridge philosopher researching cultural attitudes to sexual problems, thinks [most women are uninterested in penetrative sex], whatever their age. “Women are being told they must have a male attitude to sex. It is becoming procedural and technical, and if you are not having lots of penetrative sex and reaching a climax, you are dysfunctional. The majority of women fail to reach orgasm during penetrative sex, which must mean the majority of women have a disease. The drive to narrow the definition of what sex is about is very worrying.”"
Source: Link
(All quotes are from this article, but I didn't quote even a third of it, read on though, it's interesting.)
2007-07-17
Melaka Fray
I have finally made the decision. I want two kids.
Today I got to open another piece of Bible.
In the last few weeks, I have found my way back to God, so many times. Today was one of those times. God just melted my tired and fucking annoyed heart, and told me there is still goodness in the world. There is still awesomeness. And there is still geekiness.
God – according to me and those I hold dearly – being Joss Whedon. Joss Whedon did of course write the Bible, aka Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the [insert something that accompanies the Bible, I'm not great with religious texts] that is Angel, and the... Well...
Seriously I could go on forever listing all the awesome things Joss Whedon has done for me – and well humanity – but I'm just gonna make things simple and link you here so you won't have to listen to me rambling on all day like the crazy fundamental religious person that I am. [That'll give you a general idea of his awesomeness.]
But Joss Whedon – aka God – also wrote Fray.
I read Fray once, and it was awesome, duh. I read Fray once and ever since I have been wanting to re-read it. I have been wanting to take, have – but being one of those who buy, I have failed failed failed cause of poorness.
So yeah this girl right, she said "hey let's get you a birthday present" and there was Fray. And here is me happy. Like finally. Or something slightly more awesome-sounding.
Right.
[As they always say...] Joss Whedon once wrote: My visions of the future are always pretty much the standard issue: The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and there are flying cars.
[Actually, I didn't have a point there, I just wanted to post that quote. 'Cause it's awesome.]
So yeah. I need two kids. I need a daughter called Melaka.
Today I got to open another piece of Bible.
In the last few weeks, I have found my way back to God, so many times. Today was one of those times. God just melted my tired and fucking annoyed heart, and told me there is still goodness in the world. There is still awesomeness. And there is still geekiness.
God – according to me and those I hold dearly – being Joss Whedon. Joss Whedon did of course write the Bible, aka Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the [insert something that accompanies the Bible, I'm not great with religious texts] that is Angel, and the... Well...
Seriously I could go on forever listing all the awesome things Joss Whedon has done for me – and well humanity – but I'm just gonna make things simple and link you here so you won't have to listen to me rambling on all day like the crazy fundamental religious person that I am. [That'll give you a general idea of his awesomeness.]
But Joss Whedon – aka God – also wrote Fray.
I read Fray once, and it was awesome, duh. I read Fray once and ever since I have been wanting to re-read it. I have been wanting to take, have – but being one of those who buy, I have failed failed failed cause of poorness.
So yeah this girl right, she said "hey let's get you a birthday present" and there was Fray. And here is me happy. Like finally. Or something slightly more awesome-sounding.
Right.
[As they always say...] Joss Whedon once wrote: My visions of the future are always pretty much the standard issue: The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and there are flying cars.
[Actually, I didn't have a point there, I just wanted to post that quote. 'Cause it's awesome.]
So yeah. I need two kids. I need a daughter called Melaka.
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