Viagra, my love

"[Viagra] doesn’t make men into good lovers. For many women, it has merely highlighted the incompetence of their lovers. More crucially, it has laid bare a female secret that many men never knew. Penetrative sex does not necessarily give women the best orgasms – and, depending on which study you read, anything from a third to 52% of women never have orgasms in this way."

How is it possible that it is 2007, and people have presumably had sex since like forever – don't ask me why – and they are only now starting to [officially] realise what women like when it comes to sex. Not to mention that they do, and that it isn't actually depending on a penis. (How many friends haven't asked me if I – being a lesbian – don't feel like there is something missing? "No, my friend", I tell them, "you just haven't realised yet that there is just something in the way.")

"We are realising there are important differences in sexual arousal and responsiveness between men and women, and considerable variation between individual women – more than there is in men – in their sexual responsiveness."

"The sexual-dysfunction industry [says that] there must be something wrong with the clitorises of these women. A recent paper in the US Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology described an earnest effort to investigate “pudendal nerve integrity” after discovering 48.2% of its sample had “desire disorder, arousal, orgasmic or pain disorders”. Not great if you are selling a drug that gives men urgent erections."

Only yesterday I was listening to the news on the radio, and there was a new report that many young women experience pain when having sex (I'm assuming they're talking about penetration here, but I obviously couldn't ask them – them being on the radio and all). Now, they think it might be their birth control pills 'causing it. Considering how many problems related to sex are connected to those pills – loss of sexual appetite (gotta love that phrase), pain, not being able to orgasm, hey the list goes on – you'd really think they'd come up with something better, no? Apparently not – it is still the birth control recommended to young women. But pain? Hello. This girl was talking about how it hurt every time for years and years – and no one asked her if she ever considered not having penetrative sex. (Sweetie, you know, he doesn't have to put it there if you don't like it.)

"Katherine Angel, a Cambridge philosopher researching cultural attitudes to sexual problems, thinks [most women are uninterested in penetrative sex], whatever their age. “Women are being told they must have a male attitude to sex. It is becoming procedural and technical, and if you are not having lots of penetrative sex and reaching a climax, you are dysfunctional. The majority of women fail to reach orgasm during penetrative sex, which must mean the majority of women have a disease. The drive to narrow the definition of what sex is about is very worrying.”"

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(All quotes are from this article, but I didn't quote even a third of it, read on though, it's interesting.)